there is a woman named eng, she married and has one daughter and 2 sons.
She was very poor during that time. After years of working ,her life starts to be stable and more income as her husband's business is expending . Eventually she resigned with her current job and declares her new job as a housewife .
During the poor life , she was more happier compare to now .She become miserable and frustrated when her children didn want to listen to her orders
lets me continues my story, she keeps telling people that her children is very teachable and good ( no brat) ,....bla bla.....juz include all the good qualities .Only after her children grown up they start to rebellious against her mom .
one of her son , Tida loves to rebel and love quarrelsome with his mom .
For him, tida ,her mom always nags and everything also want to take in-charge including what kind of wife, job,clothing,.....
same goes to her second son, jida , he is more on make peace, and sometimes may prefer to hide or ignore when there is argument occur among her mom and bro. as for her daughter , fida,she never really involve in most of the quarrel as she has her own family she needs to take care of .
after years of living in such life . eng starts to be depressed . as the result , she will scold people unreasonable. mostly she will put her anger on her husband.Besides,she makes decisions without discuss with her children even her husband.as the result, she often end up quarrel with her sons.
she is totally in charged of the finance of her family , her husband gives all the authority to her wife to makes all decision ...normally he will keep silent and even when there is quarrel between his son and wife, he juz closes one eyes like nothing happens.in addition, he transferred all his assets by putting her wife name in order to show he loves her but this is still not enough ,.she wants more than that in terms of power.
month by month passed, she starts her plans.......she never thnk of others feeling .......only how she feels. the worst is she keeps telling others that ''it is for your own good''.she loves to find people to tell her stories especially her frustration and sometimes she may seeks for advice but never take it into account and stay strong with her thought.
''it will be better to let go of someone that u love,when she/he doesnt want to be hold on''
it is like rubber-bands
Stretch it as tightly will result in tear or loose. it will be better to leave it a while and don stretch it too tight . in conclusion , if eng keeps continues her methods of handling her family. it will only causes loose/not close relationship between her and her sons or it may caused bad effect which is tear/ lost respect or even run away form her mom
for me , to maintain a good relationship , support is very important not advice or scolding nor demanding . it is like playing rubber bands by stretch it and let go of it and then keep repeating it.
